Keeping Your Cool: Supporting Kids with Back-to-School Anxiety

The back to school season can bring excitement, but it can also stir up big feelings, especially for children who feel anxious about new routines, classmates, or expectations. When kids are stressed, it’s easy for parents to feel stressed too. Here are a few ways to keep your cool while helping your child manage theirs:

1. Stay Calm and Listen First

Children often need to feel heard before they can problem solve. Resist the urge to jump in with solutions right away, simply acknowledge their feelings (“It sounds like you’re nervous about meeting your new teacher”) before offering support.

2. Keep Routines Predictable

Anxiety thrives on uncertainty. Morning and evening routines give children a sense of control and help school days start and end on a calmer note. Consistent bedtimes, regular meal times, and clear after school plans can make a big difference. Think about creating a visual schedule for your younger ones and sharing a family calendar with your older ones.

3. Model Healthy Coping Skills

When you take a few deep breaths, go for a short walk, or use positive self talk, your child sees you handling stress in healthy ways. Children often copy what they see more than what they hear. Practice what you preach!

4. Focus on Small Wins

Celebrate little successes, whether it’s making it through the morning without tears or trying something new at school. These moments build confidence and resilience over time.

If your child’s anxiety seems overwhelming or persistent, talk to your pediatrician, teacher, or reach out to us at Good Beginnings. With your calm guidance and the right tools, your child can face the school year with more confidence and so can you.

Therapist Approved Tools for Calming Nerves

  • Movement Breaks: A quick game of hopscotch, wall push-ups, or a short walk can help release tension and refocus the brain.
  • Heavy Work Activities: Helping move laundry or pushing a laundry basket can provide calming input to the body.
  • Sensory Tools: A small fidget or a piece of fabric with texture can give busy hands and anxious minds something to focus on.